Blessed are the Peacemakers; for they shall be called the sons of God. Matthew 5:9
To live Peaceably with all men, you need TO LET GO OF OFFENCES. Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the alter and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there….and first go to be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. Matthew 5:23,24. (NIV)
Living in Peace with all men is what all must aspire for. Joy and Blessings are a portion for brethren who make it a duty to be at peace with all men.
To Live in peace with men, we need to live on certain agreements with ourselves:
- Be impeccable with your words. Impeccable connotes sinless, flawless, faultless, in accordance with the highest standards, upright and pure. Words are so powerful. Its builds up. It destroys. It saves, it counsels. Let your words be without falsehood. Stop hurting others with your words.
If your words are pure, you will live a better life. Words have enormous power. What words have you spoken that have negatively or positively imparted someone’s life? Stop the gossips. Stop spreading poisonous thoughts to others and creating enmity through your words. Be an accurate user of words. Don’t be a virus. You will do your world a lot of good if you speak encouraging words and avoid the negative language which destroys and divide.
- Do not take things Personally: The behavior of other people has absolutely nothing to do with you. Do not allow everything in life affect you personally. Let the words and action of others not hit so deep inside your soul that you lose your peace and joy. We are all wired differently. All brought up under different environment, conditions and experiences. Do not let others weaknesses or attitudes affect you personally. The truth is, people are not living their lives because of you or your feelings. In the home, work place, church and society, there would always be disagreements or actions of others that are repugnant, discouraging or detestable; learn to accommodate diverse situations. You will be more at peace with yourself and the world if a lot of what happens around you doesn’t bring you down negatively.
- Do not make Assumptions: Making conclusions in our minds about a matter without proving whether it’s true or false; right or wrong. When we assume, we judge wrongly must of the time. People have destroyed their relationships just based on false assumptions. Many have created enmity with others without a proven or justifiable cause. This must stop if we Want to live in peace with others and ourselves. It is best to ask questions and seek clarity on issues before concluding. It is best to be patient with others and hear them out without concluding too quickly. We have created a world of Drama around ourselves. The facts are somewhere else and everyone is dramatizing based on assumptions. No one knows what you’re thinking. You must speak your mind and don’t assume or expect others to understand what’s in your mind. Don’t make assumptions for others when they’re not aware. Kill your assumptions. Speak out.
- Do the Best that you can always: Be the best that you can be all the time. Do your best to be impeccable with your words. Do your best not to take things personally. Do your best not to make assumptions.
Delivered by Obed Addai (Minister). Church of Christ. Oforikrom. Kumasi. Ghana
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- Pick your Battles: You should not insist on getting your way all the time. Let people have their way from time to time.
- Choose who you spend your time with wisely. For evil communication corrupts good manners. 1 Corinthians 15:33
- Obey the Biblical injunction to: Try to live in peace with everyone and keep your life free from sin. Hebrews 12:14
- Let the fruit of the spirit come alive in you: But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, self-control. Galatians 5:22
- Exercise Godly wisdom: But the wisdom that comes from God is like this: First, it is pure. It is also peaceful, gentle, easy to please. James 3:17,18.
- Mind your own business: Do all you can to live a peaceful life. Mind your own business and earn your own living. 1 Thessalonians 4:11